How do I tell my mom that I don't mean for my words/voice to sound disrespectful like they might seem to be.?

omg! i thought my mom was crazy, same problem here. well i ignore my mom, or i just get mad at her and tell her off. im disrespectful. if you want to be nice just sit down with her one day, tell her about this issue, & try to see if she understands. just tell her this problem is making you fight for no reason and you want to resolve it & explain fully. good luck, i know the feeling!